tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post4848109363654390018..comments2024-03-14T13:08:14.915-04:00Comments on So, the thing is...blog: Don't Mind MeBarb Matijevichhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16469997012394334517noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-4967576174007651982010-01-22T16:18:48.800-05:002010-01-22T16:18:48.800-05:00Unfortunately, yeah, I think it's pretty norma...Unfortunately, yeah, I think it's pretty normal. Breaks your heart, but normal, nonetheless. I have the same issue with my girls. They are separated by almost 4 years, and Paige is almost 50 pounds heavier than her sister, but the two of them get into it physically all the time. Even when they're just playing, I try to stop them because I just know someone's going to do something to make the other one mad and it's going to escalate to a fight.<br /><br />Of course, where the older one likes to start the physical, the younger one is a master at psychological warfare. She can push her sister's buttons like nobody's business. She's also an amazing little actress, turning on the tears just in time for mom to see what looks like her sister tripping, flicking, or scratching her. <br /><br />So, the fights end up pretty even in the end. And even though Marissa may start it by being a button pusher, Paige usually ends up in trouble because she finishes it with a physical come-back. <br /><br />Someday, they'll grow out of it, I'm sure. I hope they live that long.LaDonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09931860727807052550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-3965647157546148062010-01-21T16:18:04.973-05:002010-01-21T16:18:04.973-05:00Oh, poor Jane! I hope she's feeling better so...Oh, poor Jane! I hope she's feeling better soon. How is mom holding up?kimhttp://chronicennui.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-89136500888687613082010-01-21T08:38:24.838-05:002010-01-21T08:38:24.838-05:00My sister and I are 16 mo apart and we never did t...My sister and I are 16 mo apart and we never did the physical fighting thing. (She was always much bigger than me and it was totally unfair.) I do remember she had some fights with neighbor kids. (There was 16 of us, all within three years of age, all girls and interchangeable parents. Seriously - who needs 6 mothers?) (Who was eating where for dinner was rather comical logistically.)<br /><br />My brother, otoh, is 4 years younger than I. And the physical fighting with him was outrageous. He was terrible - beating up on us - until we smacked him (which was sooo not allowed given the age difference.) That lasted well past the terrible two's. Or three's. Even four's. (He was a handful.)<br /><br />So sorry for the trouble with Jane (remember - children heal fast!) She probably deserves some ice cream and cookies.Bullwinklehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12765320040505378403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-52618181299806521542010-01-20T22:34:22.931-05:002010-01-20T22:34:22.931-05:00Poor ow-bow! I hope it feels better soon! As for...Poor ow-bow! I hope it feels better soon! As for sibling rivalry - yes, there was some nastiness growing up. Though it was my younger sister, in fact, who was physically more...assertive. We grew up to be great friends, though, and without serious injury.<br /><br />And...YES! So much to be grateful for. Medical care, and famblies, and not being someplace like Haiti, and having yarn to pet. Does put it all in perspective!Mrs.Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07323518008748184664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-89377320616344105982010-01-20T09:50:15.826-05:002010-01-20T09:50:15.826-05:00my 'baby' brother and I are 18 months apar...my 'baby' brother and I are 18 months apart and my older brother and I are 4 years apart. We roughhoused non-stop for years (and fought like hell a few times). The roughhousing was a fantastic way for us to learn how to handle ourselves if we ever needed to, it is also a great way to de-stress as a kid. We broke several lamps, knick-nacks and bones pouncing on each other and so did most of our friends, but when one person cried 'uncle' it stopped immediately. My brothers and I are very close to this day. I don't have kids, but I have to say that roughhousing was great fun for us as kids, and as long as the rule of 'uncle' applied, I'd probably let mine have at it.Otterhttp://otterlpb.livejournal.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-12154700122840508912010-01-19T20:54:59.555-05:002010-01-19T20:54:59.555-05:00I am a terrible hospital mother raised by a terrib...I am a terrible hospital mother raised by a terrible hospital mother. When I was 10 I took a hard fall off my horse and had to walk over a mile back home because I couldn't get back on. Two days later my mother decided I should maybe go to the doctor to get a cast I wore for 3 months. Stitches? No way. Never.<br /><br />My daughter broke her elbow when she was 2. I got around to getting to the doctor later that afternoon (hey, she took a nap and wasn't screaming). Last week my son fell out of a tree and I did take him to the ER for an xray (nonconclusive) the next day. They put a temp. cast on it--which cracked 3 days later. Since he didn't seem to be in pain and going to the doctor in Beijing is BIG pain...well, I cut it off in the garage with a saw.<br /><br />Three years in Africa with virtually no competent medical care just made me even more casual. I've had 3 broken hands/arms, at least 3 falls out of trees, a bike wreck, a fall into a barbed wire fence, and a head cracked on the pool bottom in the last 2 years. I kid you not. <br /><br />I was 6 years older than my brother and 10 years older than my sister so it was impossible to physically fight with them. If we had been closer in age, though, we definitely would have. My mom would have shoved us out the door, and probably spanked us for good measure! For all the accidents in our family, my kids are not physically combative. I think I'd take it all in stride...whacking people isn't allowed so they'd be punished, but I wouldn't get really wound up if one of them ended up with a cut or break--as long as it was roughousing,not bullying.Mama Avahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16582791527980958931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-21096678594712690842010-01-19T17:39:57.713-05:002010-01-19T17:39:57.713-05:00OK, from snickers to tears in just one post.
Deep...OK, from snickers to tears in just one post.<br /><br />Deep breath.<br /><br />I only had one physical altercation with my 2 1/2-years older brother ever, he punched me in the gut and I couldn't breathe and I truly think he was more afraid than I was and we never ever did anything like that again. <br /><br />And now I have two boys that are almost exactly 3 years apart, and (as far as I know) they have never done anything more than an occasional poke or jab - nothing ever pain-inflicting or even close to dangerous, either accidentally or on purpose.<br /><br />Clearly it's because I am the most incredible mother to walk the face of the earth.<br /><br />Or it's just luck, temperament, coincidence.<br /><br />Or my personal favorite, fear of something HURTING. They are like their mommy and they don't like to feel an owie.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17997654957335955466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-46014371176512979222010-01-19T16:55:16.028-05:002010-01-19T16:55:16.028-05:00I think siblings are going to rough house and figh...I think siblings are going to rough house and fight, no matter what mom and dad say. My oldest daughter broke her hand one time by taking a swing at her sister and missing and hitting the counter instead. We has some serious discussions about it, but then the little one caught up to her in size. Now they are the best of friends. lololGeorgihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01019991448147686889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-10998603910640880562010-01-19T16:01:16.574-05:002010-01-19T16:01:16.574-05:00Ha - my brother & I used to routinely try to k...Ha - my brother & I used to routinely try to kill each other - it was great fun! We're 3 years apart & really great friends.~Jodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00659872406402761314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-71820766703156978922010-01-19T15:45:33.051-05:002010-01-19T15:45:33.051-05:00There's a difference between roughhousing and ...There's a difference between roughhousing and bullying, keep in mind. It's normal to roughhouse. If both girls are having fun (at least, up until the part where bones are broken), no problem. It's bullying if one is crying for the other to stop and the other will not stop. Even tickling can be bullying that way.<br /><br />Hope Jane is feeling okay!Suburban Correspondenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11488916572135296650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-26736134760819521732010-01-19T13:38:19.329-05:002010-01-19T13:38:19.329-05:00DEFINITELY your nurses. (Sorry I forgot!)
But, ...DEFINITELY your nurses. (Sorry I forgot!) <br /><br />But, um, maybe not the receptionist at the radiologist's clinic...especially if she's having a bad attitude!Barb Matijevichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16469997012394334517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-19060902594617097522010-01-19T13:38:07.358-05:002010-01-19T13:38:07.358-05:00It runs the gamut, doesn't it? The mother-bear...It runs the gamut, doesn't it? The mother-bear urge to protect at all costs (read: slay the evil lie-speaking doctor's office woman), the compassion for our neighbors who aren't as blessed as we. <br /><br />Maddy's breaks were near growth plates too. How's Jane doing with the pain?<br /><br />And the sister fighting thing? Mine seem to go through ups and downs with it, mostly under the guise of "roughhousing" like you describe.Mirihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03924043596033516959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-1263046628580356512010-01-19T13:17:04.642-05:002010-01-19T13:17:04.642-05:00.....and your nurses?!! socknurse deb.....and your nurses?!! socknurse debdebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01085841975352402290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-27720918543446259722010-01-19T13:14:18.430-05:002010-01-19T13:14:18.430-05:00yes, we need to remember we have it all very very ...yes, we need to remember we have it all very very good.<br /><br />Poor baby, hug her (gently)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03707312160893238672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-76143582320950523742010-01-19T12:43:30.947-05:002010-01-19T12:43:30.947-05:00I was a nanny to a girl, 5, and a boy 2-1/2. Nine ...I was a nanny to a girl, 5, and a boy 2-1/2. Nine years later I cam back to be a physical barrier between the two of them for a period of about a year. One year after that? they could sit on a couch together to look at photos without any physical abuse (boy to girl) or psychological abuse (girl to boy). Amazing.hollygeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01152744535576051330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-71716730048689846402010-01-19T12:22:49.212-05:002010-01-19T12:22:49.212-05:00There's 20 months between my brother and I and...There's 20 months between my brother and I and we fought like cat and dog for a period of about 2 years. I think it is quite normal- although obviously that doesn't mean acceptable. In our case, we culminated in a pillow fight where I tried to jump on my brothers bed and he -accidentally to be fair- kneed me in the face and chipped my tooth. That kind of put both of us off for good, so hopefully it will be the same with Jane and Ana. Hang in there!speakingofartistryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09551663919841148498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8908127.post-21899745659364289002010-01-19T12:20:06.274-05:002010-01-19T12:20:06.274-05:00I think the fighting between siblings is at least ...I think the fighting between siblings is at least reasonably normal, Barb. It certainly was normal in OUR house - my sister and I are a year apart, and my two brothers are just under a year apart - oh yeah, a day without fighting somewhere, well, it just seems like it seldom happened.<br /><br />The ER story kinda reminds me of the time I ended up in the ER for a cat scratch - just don't ask. But for what it's worth, I don't think it was to mess with you - it was probably more because she didn't feel like doing her job.<br /><br />Good for you for keeping it together, though. (Mostly anyway.)Krishttp://darksideofthefridge.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com